Working On Perfectionism
Individuals with perfectionist traits tend to engage in certain behaviours in order to reach unrelenting high standards that can be set for themselves. Perfectionist behaviours can prevent individuals from finishing a task and sometimes even beginning in the first place.
Perfectionism behaviours can include, excessive checking, correcting, excessive organising and list-making, procrastination etc.
Perfection can be highly associated with anxiety, if this is the case, it can help to receive an assessment from and psychologist in Melbourne who has expertise in anxiety.
Some individuals with perfectionism tend to avoid certain tasks and goals in order to avoid potential failure. The fear of failure is often persistent, leading to procrastination or complete avoidance of tasks that could lead to making mistakes and not reaching certain standards.
Perfectionism can take years to develop and the process of changing can’t be rushed. Changing perfectionism can take months and even years, and it’s a process that takes a lot of time, patience, and effort. Working on one goal at a time is the most efficient way to progress. And starting with smaller issues and gradually building towards bigger ones can be helpful.
Some individuals might find it helpful to break down each goal into smaller steps. Every step along the way can cause anxiety, but the best way to succeed is to persist and don’t give up even if it means doing one step over and over again. Setbacks don’t necessarily mean the whole process has to be repeated, it’s just another chance to learn something new.
Rules are an important part of everyday life, but in order for them to be helpful, they need to be flexible, realistic, and adaptable. Flexible and realistic rules help an individual adapt to different situations. Unreasonable and unhelpful rules and assumptions prevent an individual from adapting to certain tasks and situations. For example, if one believes they must never make mistakes, this can have a significant impact on their lives.
In order to challenge and change unhelpful rules, it’s important to assess where these rules come from, how they are unrealistic and unreasonable and what consequences they have on behaviour. Assessing where these rules and assumptions come from is also an important step in changing them. The Psychologists at Richmond psychology will be able to help assess the origins of perfectionism tendencies.
The process of identifying negative rules and changing them into more flexible and realistic ones can help with overcoming the fear of failure, reassurance seeking and all or not thinking style.
Some individuals think that achievement is the most important value, and if they don’t succeed in what they do, other people will dislike them and think less of them. Overvaluation of achievement puts a great amount of pressure on that individual. Not reaching this goal can cause significant negative emotions such as sadness, embarrassment, and anxiety. Remembering that achievement is not the most important thing in life and should not affect an individuals’ well-being and interpersonal relationships are important and a valuable lesson.