Interpersonal Problems and Anger
Whether it’s family, friends, partners or acquaintances, relationships with other people are an important part of our lives. Relationships are integral because we are social creates at large. In general, having someone to share yourself with is important and helps in dealing with the everyday struggles of life.
It’s not uncommon for us to experience misunderstandings or conflicts with the people closest to us. Miscommunications and irritations are a part of everyday life, and they usually don’t last long or have to have a significant negative impact on how others are perceived. If you’re experiencing interpersonal problems, it might be beneficial to speak to a psychologist in Melbourne.
If your experiences of conflict are frequent, and they result in relationship breakdowns, there might be a problem with the ability to form and maintain healthy relationships. The ability to maintain social relationships might be impaired due to a range of mental health conditions, including personality disorders. Personality disorders are often characterised by problems with emotional and impulse regulation and control, and problematic thoughts and behaviours.
Anger is a normal emotion and can be both helpful and sometimes harmful. In some cases, anger can be expressed by withdrawal, but the more intense cases of anger are often accompanied by shouting, swearing, and even physical aggression towards people or objects.
Anger can follow other negative emotions such as sadness, shame, and fear. It can be triggered by miscommunications with others or by specific situations such as being insulted, being lied to or because of perceived lack of control.
Many problems can occur due to anger issues and this can affect different areas of an individual’s life. Social relationships are affected because of the frequent conflicts, but physical health can be damaged too- for example, high blood pressure and heart diseases can develop.
If an individual feels angry and irritated often, gets angry easily, it takes a lot of time to ‘cool down’ after getting angry or if others are intimidated by that anger, one could conclude they may have developed anger issues.
Anger management is used to control and prevent anger issues. it can be addressed individually with a therapist or in groups, but an individual can find plenty of self-help sources if they think they can overcome their fear on their own. In the process of overcoming anger issues, relaxation techniques, anger management classes and behavioural therapy can all help and have varying results.
Some basic techniques one can use for anger management are time outs, distractions, and relaxation. Time out means that one removes themselves from the situation that angers them for a certain period of time. It allows them to cool down and think about their reactions. Listening to music, talking to someone, or doing chores can be used as distractions from stressful and anger-inducing situations. Relaxation techniques such as deep breaths and meditation are also helpful.
Assertiveness is a way of expressing one’s feelings and thoughts directly and clearly, while also respecting other people’s thoughts and feelings. It can help with showing one’s feelings without showing aggression or passivity.
Assertiveness can be an art form in of itself. It can sometimes be achieved by being as honest as possible, saying what’s important in the right tone and volume, using the right body language and speaking without judgements.
For more information on assertiveness techniques and anger management, it can help to talk to a psychologist in Melbourne.